Monday, April 30, 2012

Chickenpox & Vegetarianism


I recently passed by a Walgreens Pharmacy and noticed a sign for "shingles shots." This struck me as odd since I have never seen shots other than flu shots advertised before.  Apparently, those of us who have had chickenpox are susceptible to getting shingles, which is a painful, blistering skin rash. I had no idea, and, no thank you! I did in fact have chickenpox as a child, as did it seem all kids I knew growing up at one time or another.  Luckily, my children have been vaccinated.  In response to seeing that sign and being reminded of having had the chickenpox, I post below an essay I wrote in February 2011, which I entitled:
Chickenpox & Vegetarianism

For sixth, seventh and eighth grade I attended Horace Mann Middle School.  In sixth grade I got the chickenpox during winter break.  My younger brother Dave got them first, within days of Christmas, and passed the sickness to Jenny (our younger sister) and me a few days later, just before New Year’s Day 1986.  
Me in 6th grade. Circa 1985-1986.
The bumps itched and were everywhere:my scalp, armpits, belly and bum, between my toes and even inside my throat.  The latter naturally affected my eating and I therefore consumed a lot of ice cream (Goldrush bars in particular) and popsicles for a few days.  At the time, my Mother employed a part-time housekeeper named, Melly.  She helped with the laundry and vacuumed and scrubbed floors.  She also helped take care of us little kids from time to time and while Dave, Jenny and I were laid up with the chickenpox,she did the most ingenious yet simple thing - she made Jell-O and had us drink it before it settled into its intended form. The warm liquid was so soothing on my itchy throat, it was perfect.

In addition to the chickenpox, the three of us also had a day or two of flu like symptoms, including an upset stomach and vomiting.  This fact is what made the timing of my succumbing to this illness a life changing event in some ways.  Like most families, mine made traditional meals during the holidays that centered on a specific meat: Easter is baked ham with pineapple, cloves and brown sugar; of course Thanksgiving is turkey; Christmas is a crown pork roast; and New Year’s Eve is steak, shish kabob and lobster tails.

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Thanksgiving turkey.

Christmas crown pork roast.
I have memories of liking baked ham, and eating pepperoni pizza and hot dogs and lunch meats.  But growing up in the Midwest I wasn’t much for shellfish or seafood in general, and being that the chickenpox hit me two months before I turned 12-years-old, I wasn’t yet much of a steak or crown pork roast eater either.  The flu portion of this particular sickness coincided with our traditional New Year’s Eve meal.  Normally, I would have eaten a shish kabob, which would have included small pieces of steak, but since I was sick my plate pretty much consisted of plain white rice.

My older sisters, Mary and Paddy, who I believe were 19 and 17, respectively, were also in attendance for the meal.  Paddy, who around that time had become involved in Amnesty International and PETA and WWF (the World Wildlife Federation), had recently decided to become a vegetarian. My father, for whatever reason, was very against this, but I looked up to my sisters and thought about giving vegetarianism a try myself.  I think my Dad was annoyed since he had begun to cook most of our dinners at this point because my Mom worked from 3 p.m. to 9 p.m. generally, and he just wanted us to eat whatever he made.  Paddy being 17-years-old was capable of cooking for herself and there was little my father could do to force her to eat meat.  Not being quite 12-years-old yet, I did not have that option.

My other sister, Mary, was a self-proclaimed carnivore at this time.  She and our Dad used to have “pork fest” at Christmas dinner where they basically ignored all the vegetables on the table and loaded their plates with meat from the crown pork roast and ate until they “started sweating.”  (Ironically, Mary became a vegan in 2006.)  On this particular New Year’s Even meal (the night it changed from 1985 to 1986), Mary had a big ‘ole steak on her dinner plate, which my Dad cooked medium rare per her specifications.  Only, it came out a little pinker than planned and her plate literally filled with blood when she cut into it.  My stomach churned and it was the only time during the 10-days or so that I was sick that I actually vomited.  An aversion to meat was born at that moment and coupled with my desire to emulate Paddy, I became a vegetarian, much to my father’s chagrin.  His initial anger gave way to annoyance, which in turn gave way to teasing at dinner time by always offering me a piece of meat, to eventual acceptance.

Being that I likely was fed no meat during my first year of life, by the time I reached the age of 24, I had lived more years as a vegetarian than I did as a meat eater.  Now at the age of 37, I’ve been meat free for 25 years – a quarter of a decade.  In that time I tried shrimp twice (did not enjoy the texture or the flavor), lobster (became violently ill within hours of ingestion) and a spicy chicken wing (loved the BBQ sauce but despised the meat).  Over the years I’ve had people react with indignation when they learned I don’t eat meat, but mostly it’s not an issue, though I do get a lot of questions either way.  “Why” being the number one inquiry, followed by: Do you eat chicken or fish? (No, I eat no meat) and, Do you eat dairy? (Yes, I’m a vegetarian, not a vegan.) Oh, and yes, I do wear leather because I’m a hypocrite for fashion apparently.

Saturday, April 28, 2012

Home, home on the range.

"Home" in Sheboygan since Wednesday, returning to Rhode Island tomorrow. Already missing the Sweeneys but also ready for my own bed.
Saturday night dinner w/my siblings @ Kiku of Tokyo. "Fire in the hole!"
Sheboygan hard rolls from City Bakery. Worth every carb!
Finny w/Buppa.
Clare @ Evergreen Park.
110% the other guy's fault! Thank God we were not (seriously) hurt, though I do feel a massage in my near future!

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Confession

I have a small confession to make. Not only did I splurge and get a pedicure yesterday, but while I was there having my feet massaged I heard a lovely rendition of the song "Always on My Mind" (I love Willie Nelson!) though I could not recognize the singer of this particular version. So, I did what any self respecting person with a Smartphone would do and I utilized my Shazam app. Thanks to Shazam, there is now a Michael Buble song I like. (Mini groan).

Monday, April 23, 2012

I am from Sheboygan

Life is a little different this week. We essentially moved out of our house on Saturday in order to have all of our hardwood floors sanded and refinished. Besides the bathrooms and Clare's bedroom, the entire house is hardwood flooring, which therefore required us to cram every bit of furniture from our master bedroom and Finny's nursery into Clare's room, with our kitchen, playroom and family room furniture being stored either in the basement or on our screened in porch.  The logistics were a tad nerve wracking but my husband was awesome! 

We are staying at my in-law's beach house in Charlestown, Rhode Island during the first half of the week while the work is being done, and then I am flying with the kiddos to Wisconsin on Wednesday to visit my family since we have to stay out of the house until Friday.  It's always fun to stay at my in-law's beach house as it is only 40 minutes or so from our house, but it is remote enough that you feel fairly detached from reality.  Definitely strange leaving from there to go to work this morning, particularly in light of the rain deluge yesterday and this morning, which left us without power from 7:15 a.m. until we left just before 8 a.m.

In any event, Wisconsin, and Sheboygan in particular, have been on my mind these past few days as I packed suitcases for our trip, which was especially difficult as spring weather is never predictable. It's cool and rainy today, but just last week we had beautiful 70 degree sunny days. The Midwest and New England are not much different in that respect. Thinking such thoughts reminds me of an essay I wrote in December  2008, as a homemade Christmas gift.  It is posted below:
 
I AM FROM SHEBOYGAN

I am from Sheboygan. I have lived in New England for a dozen years, but I am from Sheboygan.  

When I was in high school, we referred to our town as “Sheer Boredom” to highlight its lack of cosmopolitanism.  In the same vein that Target is called “Tar-jay” and the Salvation Army is affectionately referred to as “Sally’s,” my hometown has now taken on the moniker “Shevegas.”  I even recently heard it called “Shebagdad,” which in today’s economic climate might not be far off.

I am from Sheboygan but I am now a New Englander. I moved to Connecticut during the summer of 1996, but I do not feel I truly became a New Englander until after I married my husband Josh in June 2005, and I certainly was one after the birth of my daughter Clare in June 2007.  I am a New Englander now but will always have Midwest blood running through my veins.  

It is strange to think that Clare, who looks and acts so much like me at eighteen months old, will grow up a New Englander – a Rhode Islander to be more specific – rather than follow in my Midwest footsteps.  She will not be worse for it, hopefully better, but most certainly different than me.  I have never cracked and eaten a lobster, but Clare likely will.  I did not take my first plane ride until I was 23- years old but Clare has already logged four roundtrip flights!  She is très cosmopolitan!

Clare will not grow up sledding at Volrath Bowl or Kiwanis Park, except maybe when she is visiting her grandparents at Christmas.  She won’t spend summers at North Beach or learn to swim in Lake Michigan, though she will likely spend some time there now and again.  Instead, Clare will spend summers at East Beach in Charlestown, Rhode Island and will learn to swim in the Atlantic Ocean; she will go sledding in winter at a location I am not even familiar with yet.  I won’t be reliving my childhood through Clare, instead I will be an excited observer and participant in hers.  

My family will do its best to make Clare a cheese head and she’s already seen her first sausage race at Miller Park, but I know Wally will probably end up her favorite mascot (unless of course she becomes a Badger like her Mumma!)


Clare in Packer gear from her Auntie Paddy - December 2007

Clare at Miller Park in Milwaukee - July 2009

Sausage race @ Miller Park - July 2009. The chorizo won!

Clare, my future Badger! August 2011. Photo by www.sweeneysphotography.com in Madison, Wisconsin. 

Sunday, April 22, 2012

A rose by any other name.


My maiden name is Stephanie Jean Sweeney.  When I got married, I dropped the Jean and made Sweeney my middle name, making my legal name Stephanie Sweeney Berry.  I was more attached to Sweeney than I was to Jean and did not want to be bothered by the whole hyphenation thing.

These have not been my only names, however.  Besides the obvious shortening of Stephanie to Stephie and Steph, at a very young age, I gained the following nicknames:  Birdie/Birdie Bert and Gert/Gert Hopper. 

My mother coined Birdie when I was two or three years old.  As the story goes, I would not eat food off of my own plate, preferring instead to sit on the edge of my Mom’s chair and eat the food from her plate, the way a baby bird eats worms from its mother’s beak I guess.  Birdie Bert was just an extension of that.

Around the same time, I got the nickname Gert Hopper, which I just recently learned was coined by my Uncle Dave Hasenstein. For 30+ years I was under the mistaken impression that the nickname came after meeting a friend of my parents named Gert, which I apparently found hilarious and kept repeating. (I imagined it being similar to Will Ferrell’s character “Buddy” in the movie Elf when he repeats the name “Francisco”).  I then thought Gert morphed into Gert Hopper because I used to jump back and forth from the sofa to the coffee table, which made my mother such a nervous wreck that she would flip the coffee table on its top to prevent me from “hopping” onto the couch from it.

Gert Hopper!
 
Later in childhood and into high school I was called simply by my last name of Sweeney, as well as other combinations like Sweeney-Jean and Stephie-Jean.  Freshman year in high school a boy in my English class started calling me Smiley since I smiled so much.  In college, my roommate Becky started referring to me as Sweeney-Butt. I’m not quite sure why.  I should really ask her about that one of these days.

Friday, April 13, 2012

Thrift score!

On days that I am in my office (versus out at a deposition, court or client meeting) and the weather cooperates, I take a 30 minute lunchtime walk to get a break from staring at my computer screen, as well as to sneak in some fitness. During these walks I will sometimes have a specific destination like picking up a salad at a local restaurant, and other times I will just meander. A semi-regular destination is my work town's local Salvation Army a/k/a Sally's.  I have a love/hate relationship with thrift stores (read thrift, not consignment stores) in that when I was an elementary/middle schooler, my mother would drag me to these stores and I lived in fear of being seen by a classmate and thought poor. (Yeah, I was a snob). My mother would often make incredible finds, though at the time I was not impressed.  Needless to say, as a young adult I did not frequent thrift stores on my own but then I met my husband in 2000 and he came from a family of thrifters. His meme & pepe were especially good at finding that diamond in the rough, as is his aunt, my mother-in-law. I now am an appreciator of Sally's and love the challenge of finding that item or two that still has the tags on, or looks hardly worn. Particularly now that I have children who outgrow clothing so quickly, it really helps the pocketbook to find a few pieces of clothing at a thrift store for a bargain price every now and again. My almost 5-year-old daughter adores Sally's as she is often allowed to pick out toys that she wouldn't otherwise be allowed to purchase at full price.  It will be interesting to see how she responds to thrift stores as she gets a little older but for now, it is a fun activity for her. Today Sally's was my walk destination and I made quite the score! For $28.07 I found the following:

(1) a Vineyard Vine's mini skirt in the preppiest green color w/the tag still on;
(2) a black & white Banana Republic skirt that looks like new;
(3) a hot pink linen Adrienne Vittadini skirt;
(4) a brown Ann Taylor shell dress w/snake skin print lining;
(5) a cotton, navy blue strapless J.Crew dress; and,
(6) a woven belt.


The Ann Taylor dress won't be worn until the fall but you have to scoop up the gems when you find them. The J. Crew dress will have to be tailored in the bust even though it's "my size" as following the breastfeeding of two children and the loss of the baby weight I now have the bra cup size AA. Oh yes, there is something smaller than an A cup besides a training bra.I will try to remember to post photos of me wearing these pieces.


Wednesday, April 11, 2012

NPR's 3-minute fiction - Round Three short story

In 2010, I wrote the following short story pursuant to Round Three of NPR's 3-minute fiction contest. The story is an original work of fiction based on the following photograph:



Alex turned, his purchased coffee in hand and noticed that the fresh faced clerk had put it in a to-go cup.  That had been his intention when he walked into the café, but it wasn’t until now that he realized he had actually followed through with it.  He stepped away from the counter as he lifted the lid to blow on the hot contents.  As he did, Alex noticed a vacant table that he could tell was rickety and unbalanced – a desire to repair it overwhelmed him.  A discarded newspaper was lying on top of the red surface and he thought how life altering his decision to sit at that table and read that newspaper would be, rather than continuing on his path.  Alex hesitated as some coffee spilled out of the cup; he assumed Blaire would be waiting for him at their agreed meeting spot.  They had been fighting a lot lately and had taken some time apart to sort out their individual feelings before agreeing to meet, a symbol they were both committed to moving forward and working on their marriage.  Alex felt it was hopeless and would have more easily leaned toward divorce were it not for the pregnancy.  They were so different, wanted such different things out of their daily existence.  Perhaps their core beliefs were the same, they both believed in marriage and wanted to be parents, but daily life with Blaire was so difficult, exhausting.  He often wondered how they even got this far in their relationship.  He didn’t want Blaire to change for him, but he wanted a peaceful, laid-back existence and life with Blaire was anything but.  She was demanding, often unhappy and picky.  He loved her anyway. She had energy and could be downright funny when she was happy and having a good time.  It just seemed like a lot of work to make her happy and Alex just didn’t think he was the man for the job.  It was no one’s fault – they just weren’t one of “those” couples.  He knew he would go to meet Blaire, he may not be the man to make her happy, but he was a man and could not leave her sitting there waiting for him. It just would not be the symbol it was suppose to be.  As his hand reached for the brass door handle leading out to the bustling sidewalk, he thought again about sitting at that empty table, reading that discarded newspaper, just being himself again, not the puppet on a string he felt himself to be now. 

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

2011 New Year's Resolutions Recap & Check-In

This somehow did not post back in January, so I will re-post it now...

Unfortunately, I did not quite reach my goal of 52-books read/listened to in 2011 - I was 11 books shy.

Since my post on July 5th, here are the additional books I read in 2011:

(24) The Brothers Bulger: How They Terrorized and Corrupted Boston for a Quarter Century by Howie Carr
(25) The Omnivore's Dilemma: A Natural History of Four Meals by Michael Pollen
(26) The Final Solution: A Story of Detection by Michael Chabon
(27) The Dharma Bums by Jack Kerouac
(28) Big Sur by Jack Kerouac
(29) The Anti-Romantic Child: A Story of Unexpected Joy by Priscilla Gilman
(30) A Stolen Life: A Memoir by Jaycee Lee Dugard
(31) The Hunger Games by Suzanne Collins
(32) Catching Fire by Suzanne Collins
(33) Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone by JK Rowling
(34) Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets by JK Rowling
(35) Mockingjay by Suzanne Collins
(36) Bel Canto by Ann Patchett
(37) Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkiban by JK Rowling
(38) Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire by JK Rowling
(39) Dance Dance Dance by Haruki Murakami
(40) Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix by JK Rowling
(41) Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince by JK Rowling


As you can see, I got to the Harry Potter party a little late, first starting the series in the fall of 2011. I completed the final book in January 2012 and felt like my best friends moved away when I was done.

Also, I adore Emma Watson.  She is a fine role model for young girls on how to behave like a lady, and I love her head to toe style.

Theresa

So... first, it's been way too long since I posted a new entry and that needs to be rectified. Second, I fear my laptop is going to finally die from the slow death it's been suffering the past few months and before it does, I need to transfer the personal essays I wrote in 2011 as part of my then New Year's resolutions into some other format before they are lost forever. What better place than my long inactive Blog! So, here we go starting with an essay I wrote about my college roommate/maid-of-honor/Godmum to my son.

Theresa, My Fly Girl

Theresa is the friend by which I gauge all other persons.  If Theresa does not care for someone or is not liked by another, I can only assume that person is not worthy of my own friendship.  However, I have yet to meet a person that does not like Theresa after spending even a minimal amount of time with her as she is funny and delightful, welcoming and inviting, compassionate and caring.  And besides, she can hold her drink, and her tongue -- two important traits to look for in a true friend.

(I wrote the above passage in Theresa’s birthday card for her 35th birthday in January 2009, and it lent itself to writing an essay about Theresa, our friendship and the important role she plays in my life, which follows below and was originally written in March 2011.)

I met Theresa Widmann by the luck of the draw.  Senior year in high school I made the decision to go to the University of Wisconsin (Madison) for college.  My plan was to room with my best friend, Kristin Shafer, and to major in journalism.  Neither of those things ended up happening.  For one of two possible reasons, Kristin and I did not get placed into the same dorm room together.  I’ve never questioned her about it, but I believe that Kristin had a change of heart and decided not to request me as her roommate.  (Though, that is also likely the paranoid part of me that doubts coincidences). In any event, while I would have adored rooming with Kristin, I do believe everything worked out for the best as I met and became friends with an interesting group of women that I otherwise might not have met, and likewise for Kristin.  Kristin and I did end up in the same dorm (Sellery A), but on different floors (me on 7, she on 9).  We remained friends and even took an introductory journalism class together, but not being roommates definitely affected how close our friendship was for a time.  I branched out and made new friends.  (With the luxury of hindsight, this is very similar to what happened to me in the transition from middle to high school and how I become friends with Kristin in the first place.)

The most important friend I made was Theresa.  She was my randomly assigned roommate in room 762 in Sellery A dormitory at 821 W. Johnson Street in MADTOWN.  In the summer of 1992, Theresa and I wrote a couple of letters back and forth giving each other a brief introduction of ourselves (we even sent the other our senior photo) and we coordinated via telephone what the other was bringing in terms of a microwave, toaster, etc.  Based on Theresa’s photo and our conversations via letter and telephone, I had a certain image of her in my mind.  When I met her on the day we moved into the dorm, I was a little surprised and even somewhat scared.

Theresa was dressed like a “Fly Girl” and looked like she could kick my ass.  But I very quickly learned that she was wonderful, and almost 20-years later she is still one of my very best friends and was in fact, my maid-of-honor and is now Finnbar’s God-mum.  (Kristin is Clare’s God-mother.)

Theresa as my maid-of-honor during my bridal shower @ Jonathan Edward's Winery in Connecticut. May 2005.
Theresa & I sharing a laugh in Charlestown, RI on July 4, 2005
Enjoying some incredible live music at the Newport Folk Fest in August 2010.